'LGBTQ+ folks use online dating at a higher rate than straight people,' says Men's Health board advisory member Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D. It's also why gay and bi men flock to dating and hookup apps. That's part of the reason queer men hit up gay bars. When you're a guy who's attracted to people of the same gender, you might have fewer opportunities than your straight buddies to serendipitously meet someone and experience that mutual romantic spark. Dating can be a pain in the ass, and it can be even harder for gay and bi men.